Ladies I need your advice, How do you cope?
this isn’t a should I stay or go question, it’s a give me tips, or steps on how to make this easier.
First let me explain that I am very much in love with my boyfriend.
we have seriously discussed getting married to the point where I suspect he is ring shopping. however my issue lies in missing him. you see my relationship started three years ago as an online romance/ friendship, it blossomed into this beautiful relationship. with it’s share of problems of course. the biggest issue being the distance. You see I live in the city that never sleeps, fast paced and constantly moving, and he is, well, from Tennessee. not quite the same (much slower). after about two years of being together we decided to move in together, I mean we’d visited for the two years on and off even took a vacation together to florida. we assumed we were ready for the next step, and we were. however neither of us could sustain him here we didn’t have enough money to keep him living in nyc. it’s expensive. so unfortunately my dream ended three months after it began and he was forced to move back to tennessee. the absolute worst day of my life. since then he’s being looking steady for jobs to earn as much money as possible to come back to new york with as much as 100+ applications out there selling all of his personal effects, anything short of stealing or begging for it (although that’s next) and I find now that he’s gone I am horribly depressed, I can feel him hold me, I still smell him in my sheets, when I close my eyes I see his beautiful face. I have no motivation, I cry constantly, I’m irritable, and have become so bitter. I was so happy when he was here, now I just feel so alone, everyone in my family turned against me because they want my dead grandmothers money so I have no one to turn to and he’s promised to try harder than every before to get back here. my issue is I don’t know how to function now that he doesn’t live with me. I was so settled and happy ready to begin anew and start my chapter with him. I hate going places I’ve taken him, and I find I rarely want to leave the house. is there any way to deal with this depression of missing him like I do (without the use of therapy and anti-depressants) long enough to be sane until he comes home to me again. please don’t be rude, I am completely whole with him and right now I feel so empty. so if any ladies knows what that feels like or may know of a way to help please help me deal. I miss him so much and I just want him home
ok well since I failed to mention this part I might as well now.
1. He hates tennessee and so do I
2. I am a student in nyc it’s why I can’t just up and move
3. I’d love to get the hell out of here after I graduate, hell that’s the plan
4. it’s just so he can be with me now because he hates where he lives and I am stuck here.
and again try not being rude…
oh and the first time he moved, he did live with me. I live in my deceased grandmothers home, my aunt pays rent she’s a B**ch enough said, anyway. he’s not “allowed” to stay with me anymore part of the reason we had to get him his own place, this story is huge…ok…
also I don’t own a car, I’m looking for jobs since I am a full time student….too far of a commute is out of the question.