It will last? Does he ever regret what he did?

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My spouse is 10.5 years, I was 5 months ago. I caught him cheating with a girl 22-year-old was there, my ex was 35 years (he was his superior). We had just bought our first house together before 8 months. The day I surprised, I found a text message on his phone saying “I want to wake up some of your sweet lovin ‘He denied and said that” she “was just a joke. I pushed him out and he called me a cell phone crying saying that this is not what I thought, he tried everything to make me believe that this was not what I thought. But he never came home. Instead, he moved to the 22yr old “friend” and her roommate in a house just up the street where our house was. He lived there for 2 ½ months, while I’m home devastated and tries to keep up with mortgage, car payments and utilities has been on my own. I am ashamed to admit it, but I tried everything to try and save our relationship, but he never cared to accept the idea. Needless to say, he gave me no money for his missions, he just left everything. I had to leave the house because I could not bear to be there anymore, I was literally losing his head. I moved home, which is 3 hours and I’m back to my mother at the age of 30 years! He rode on his property at the end of August and said he was preparing his own place, which was a lie because they moved in together and now rent townhouse. I gave her things like our bed, TV, cooking tips, now stationed in the new place with this girl. I feel like a fool, and he believed this stuff, but I really want him to find his place. Now we get on our mortgage and loan payments in default, we now have to file for bankruptcy. I worked very hard for us, where we will be deprived of life not only for him all.Not I lost my best friend, my wife and my future, I lost my home and financial future as well that’s selfish acts, The worst is that he does not care. We have mutual friends and I heard that he is happy. Our friends tell me to go because he can not, as I go if I have to do on the way? He was in town a few days ago and said he brought his new girlfriend and present, every now wanted for 6 a couple months. was pretty stupid to me was before I met him gehen.Wie we be happy to know all the pain and suffering caused by it? How can it be “happy” to know? I wonder if his last “new” relationship, how something that started with lies, fraud and health? Will this relationship last? Was it “is worth losing everything?” I never saw it coming in I was totally unprepared and pain and injury I have is overwhelming. I wonder if he thinks of me or even regrets what he did?, I should also mention that he had an e-mail tells me he lives in the basement and another girl had lived with them. That would leave soon, he been informed of her life and she knew that everything he does drink, and apparently has a drug problem also taken. A week ago he finally admitted that he live with her, both of them. What a 35yr old man to a young girl 23yrs old to see Where does he see this?!

8 Comments
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    Amanda
    May 19, 2011 at 10:16 am

    Rest assured that her time to suffer and writhe will come. The cycle will continue, and a cheater will eventually upgrade to a newer model. Be glad you didn’t have any children, and it’s only financial losses.

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    Kitten
    May 19, 2011 at 10:29 am

    I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through that… The best you can do is focus on you and now your single life… do everything you think you would enjoy and take your mind off of him.

    He’s not worth your time for any reason.

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    Melissa
    May 19, 2011 at 11:13 am

    I know you feel awful now but it will pass. You need to realize being bitter and devoting to much time to thinking about the bastard will get you nothing but depressed. Think of ways that to improve yourself and make you feel better. That way when a good man comes your way you will be ready and in the right frame of mind. Life is short dont waste time dwelling on someone who doesn’t deserve you.

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    apoorapothecary
    May 19, 2011 at 11:20 am

    This is going to be tough to try to do, but you have to stop living for the answers you won’t get. He’s not going to answer them for you, and you probably wouldn’t like the answers if he did.

    You should stop wondering about your ex’s relationship, and his feelings, and his situation, and get on living your own. Work on developing your resilience, and work to simply understand that these things happen, people get hurt, and that the most important thing is to move on and take this as a very bad lesson learned.

    What do you move on to when there’s nothing there to move to? This is a “blank slate” time of your life – its actually an opportunity to create things for yourself that you didn’t when you were busy either with that sorry excuse for a man, and busy with the things that tied you down, so my recommendation is you treat it as such – its not as bad as you think!

    Good luck to you!

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    Donyae
    May 19, 2011 at 11:44 am

    Can’t you sue him for breach of contract or something? He did walk on the mortgage which caused your finical ruin. I wouldn’t let him walk away from this clean. Fuck that. Get your money.

    And as for the girl, who cares? Your relationship with that piece of shit is over. Don’t worry about her or him. I understand that you’re hurt, you put a lot of your life into that. But it’s over now and it’s time to move on to better things.

    Karma always gets people in the end.

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    Jose
    May 19, 2011 at 11:56 am

    if you need a guy hit me up

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    jude
    May 19, 2011 at 12:10 pm

    Any relationship built on someone else’s misery will not last, because any fair god won’t allow it. One day he’ll regret it, but by then you will have moved on. Usually men are willing to give it all up for the new woman. The best thing to do is to cut all ties even if it means cutting ties with all mutual friends you both had. the less you know about them the better. Its like a stab in the heart every time you hear about them. Of course he doesn’t care, because he isn’t the one hurt.

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    itsalltrue12
    May 19, 2011 at 1:04 pm

    be glad that he stepped out now. think of it like this, he lost everything that you did so if he can move on then so can you.. get yourself all prettied up and go out and have some fun. you’ve been in a serious relationship since you were 20! its hard to start over but at least try to enjoy your time doing it. know that you wont get into something as serious as buying property with someone unless your married and they have all their playing games out of their system. hes missing out.. trust me he is. hes probably one of those men that will get everything that he has coming… you just be the bigger person and wish him well… time will heal all of those wounds and your going to get a new guy that’s hotter, with a better job, and will make your ex look like the true loser that he is….. just you wait.

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